by Kelly Young, LMSW
Director of Family Preservation Services for the Kansas City Region, KVC Kansas
This article from the KVC Institute for Health Systems Innovation is the ninth in a 12-part series on parenting skills. See additional articles.
Earlier in our parenting skills blog series, we shared helpful tips and information on a variety of parenting strategies designed to decrease coercive interactions and increase compliance in children and adolescents. Goal setting is another useful tool that can define desired outcomes and assist parents and caregivers in defining his or her parenting vision and purpose.
In order to set goals, a clear and realistic goal statement should be identified. Goal statements provide parents and caregivers with direction and purpose, and orient a family toward solutions that are simple, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time bound (short-term and long-term).
There are six steps in the goal setting process:
- State what you want
- Focus on the future
- State the goal positively
- Establish small, achievable steps toward the goal
- Be specific
- Stay hopeful
Let’s give this a try with a few questions:
- Which character traits are important to you?
Goal Statement: I will raise a cooperative child with a positive attitude who is kind, well balanced, solution-focused and articulate.
- What do you hope for your teenager?
Goal Statement: I will have a relationship with my teen child that is open, honest and positive.
- When your teenager moves into young adulthood, what do you hope for your child?
Goal Statement: I will raise my child to be a young adult who is gainfully employed, self-sufficient, future-focused and goal-oriented.
Goal setting is the ninth of twelve skills taught in the Parent Management Training – Oregon (PMTO) model. PMTO is developed on forty years of research and practice with the core belief that parents are their children’s best teachers. KVC teaches this empowering evidence-based practice to parents and caregivers involved in the child welfare system, but the lessons learned from this model can be beneficial for any parent or caregiver. If you are interested in learning more about PMTO in Kansas, visit the Kansas Department for Children and Families’ website.
Interested in exploring goal setting further? Download this simple practice sheet and track your progress!
Read the other articles in this parenting skills blog series.